Communication Issues In The Relationship:

• Themes of poor communication: Poor listening, lack of empathy, defensiveness, aggressive tone, passiveness, withdrawal or shutting down, needing space to process, avoidant, misreading partner, being misunderstood, not having words to explain the feeling, apologizing without change, punishment through silence, blaming, bringing up past issues, gaslighting self or partner, invalidation, blaming, and/or over pursuing or “nagging."

Some things to consider: does my communication style match the message I’m trying to relay?  Am I coming off as blaming my partner for an emotion that I am responsible for first?  Have I regulated my emotions before addressing my partner so I don’t come off as angry or blaming?  Based on what I know about my partner's insecurities, am I delivering this message in a way that they can hear me without being triggered?  What is my intent?  What do I need?  How can my partner support me in this need?  What is my partner doing well?

By working with our EFT therapist, you will understand how your receiving your partner's information and what insecurities this might trigger in you that cause a communication break by your response.  You will learn how your partner receives information and where they personalize it.  After several sessions of EFT, you two will have practiced ways to communicate better with fewer reactions.  You will learn to slow the cycle down when it feels that it is drifting from the purpose. 

Trust and Betrayal Repair:

Common examples of a break in trust or betrayal:

• Infidelity (physical, emotional, cyber, object and financial)

• Threatening separation or divorce 

• Apologizing without change 

• Lies

• Broken promises

• Avoidance or withdrawl from partner in crisis 

• Addiction Issues

Ways to repair: 

• Reestablish safety in the relationship 

• No further events of betrayal 

• Empathy and validation 

• Allow your partner space to discuss how they were impacted by the betrayal 

• Listen to your partner's experience 

• Transparency 

• Show remorse by giving details that the client requests

• Patience

• Allowing partner time to recover 

• Responsiveness 

• If the partner requests reassurance, be available and willing to provide. 

At Mind, Body, Soulmates, we believe in second chances, and that’s why we create a non-judgment space for couples who have experienced a break in trust in their relationship.  We’ve seen couples grow closer than before the betrayal through EFT and EMDR treatment, and we’ve seen them go their separate ways.  We are here to facilitate whatever direction the relationship needs to go to repair individually or together.

Sex and Intimacy:

Reasons clients seek therapy for sex and intimacy concerns:

• Life transition changed sex life drastically, and now trying to reconnect intimately.  

• Wanting something different and having different opinions on it

• Impacts of trauma in or out of the relationship affecting sex life 

• Impact of medical conditions or age 

• Loss of connection

Gender Roles:

Are you trying to break the cycle of generational roles and expectations but find one or both of you resort back to traditional roles? This often can lead to resentment and feelings of loneliness in relationships. Our therapists will address this topic with background knowledge of cultural and generational roles that impact your relationship through psychoeducation, resources, and emotionally focused therapy techniques.